There’s an article in this week’s Maclean’s Canada’s weekly magazine talking to therapisr Esther Perel about boring sex in marriages. She says in her experience it’s just as often the men who withhold sex in the relationship (not my experience in practice, but I know there are men who will turn it down). She said…
DetailsI’m often astounded how guys hold it together. How they don’t spontaneously combust – blow up from a serious lack of sex. The longer I’m a sex therapist, the more I believe that the average guy wants, and needs about 10 times the sex he’s usually getting. Most healthy men, in a perfect world, would…
DetailsThe continum of sexual desire. It ranges from men who aren’t that interested in sex (few, far between, and usually are on anti-depressants, thyroid medication, or have another health issue) to the sexually addicted. I’m meeting men every week who have to use the bathroom at work to masturbate. Guys, who if they could would…
DetailsI, like many of my peers, had a bit of a misspent youth. A few of the wrong guys, a couple of crazy pranks, and lots of experimentation with illicit substances. So now that I’m all grown up and a responsible sex therapist (ha), I’m seeing a bunch of guys for whom that lifestyle of…
DetailsI was re-living the 80’s the other day. "I wanna new Drug" the Huey Lewis song, about finding the perfect drug that would instantly make you feel perfect. Well I want the perfect sex drug or toy. Don’t get me wrong, there are alot of great sex toys, (my favourite is still my 30 year…
DetailsSeptember always seems like the beginning of the year. Forget January, it’s all about those new backpacks, and start of the school year that has me thinking of rolling around in leaves and tight Levi’s. Big sweaters and football games, is there anything that brings back the thought of hot sex, then the smell of…
DetailsSex and aging, some cool new information on how to keep boffing until they take you away in a box…. I was reading another fabuluous book call Sexual Nutrition, by Dr. Morton Walker, the prolific naturopath. Anyway, he did this research project where he went down to the Andes to southern Equador where he…
DetailsSo Men’s Health Magazine commissioned this survey of how men like to have sex. Filipino guys apparently like to masturbaste most (5 times a week, instead of the usual 4). No wonder your hot water bill is so high. Canadian men are unremarkable (they used to be considered the most sensitive lovers, maybe there is…
DetailsI’ve been seeing a bunch of patients who are having affairs. For some people it’s not a bad option – the guys I see who’s wives no longer give it to them and are going to spontaneously combust walking down the street, for those men an affair is a life saver. You have to get…
DetailsI was reading this summer chick lit book at the cottage while my kids ran aound bugging each other. It was called The Accidental Virgin by Valerie Frankel pink romance novel given to my by my almost sister in law. Cute story, made me laugh in a few places, and she gets one of the…
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